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Exercise is complex. It shouldn't be but it is. As a society, it is largely packaged up and promoted by diet and weight loss companies as a way to shrink yourself. The power of movement is often seen as a socially acceptable way to punish yourself for eating too much or eating foods that are labelled as unhealthy and bad.

It can sometimes feel like exercise is never really about how you feel, but more about how you look and like most people, I have previously fallen into that trap.

It doesn't help that the fitness and wellness industry is somewhat elitist - with a certain type of body at the forefront. You can flick through magazines, scroll through Instagram, or hop on the tube for your morning commute, and you will receive subtle and sometimes non subtle advertisements that will say "you're not good enough, here's a product or a membership to fix yourself". You will particularly notice these kinds of messages just after Christmas, with the whole 'new year slimmer you' rubbish!

In all honesty, if I look back at my childhood and connect to my younger self, I really did not see exercise as anything other than a way to drop some weight. From PE lessons at school, to Zumba classes after college - I only ever moved so that I could slim down, change, and sculpt my body.

Through the power of advertising and the language society uses, exercise was not meant to be enjoyed. It was something to endure so that you could fit an ideal (or for me, fit into Topshop jeans lol) and if it hurt or made you sick you needed to suck it up and grow a pair.

No pain, no gain right?


Over the years my relationship with exercise has been a bit all over the place. During my early 20's when I was so engrained in diet culture, body obsessive and generally mentally unwell, exercise became a slight addiction for me. If I couldn't get to the gym, go to a class, or go for a swim I was absolutely riddled with guilt. "I can't go and workout today so I need to be extra careful with what I eat and I definitely shouldn't have too many carbs. I don't need the energy anyway'.

In the beginning, exercise made me feel good, but by the end of 2015, it did the opposite. It was a way for me to be unkind to myself and I would consistently work out harder and harder and harder, to the point where I would need to sleep afterwards. Exercise is supposed to make you feel better and energised and YASSS I CAN TAKE ON THE WORLD, but for me, it made me want to hide away from the world and not be seen, because "Omg I'm working out so much but I haven't lost anymore weight. I'm fat, I'm a failure, why can't I just be thin".

Thin like all the women in workout DVD's. Thin like all the fitness bloggers. Thin like all the Instagram baddies.

I didn't know exercise shouldn't be painful, or a chore, or forced. I didn't know that I had a choice with what exercise I wanted to do and I didn't know that I could enjoy it either. Exercise = weight loss. Weight loss = happiness. And I wanted to achieve my dream body no matter the cost.

But shock horror the cost arrived and in early 2016 that cost became my mental health.

I was anxious. I was fearful. I had so much unprocessed trauma that I couldn't bare to go on anymore. I became a "couch potato" in order to cope. I stopped restricting and instead used food to fill a void. 25 year old Grace was now 15 year old Grace and it was bloody awful.

But with self care, therapy, faith and time, I began to heal and that takes me up to where I am now.


Since becoming well and prioritising my mental health, I would be lying if I said that exercising has been easy. It's actually been really hard. A part of my healing has been learning and reading about body positivity, health, bodies, diet culture and of course eating disorders and trauma. All that knowledge has been an unexpected burden. A burden I'm happy to carry but a burden nonetheless, because once you know better, you do better.

I can no longer workout unless its from a kind place and I am doing it because I love my body, not because I hate it. However, its not as easy it seems because the connotations attached to exercise and my body are so deeply engrained into my mind, that I still deep down think about losing weight as soon as I start moving.

I still imagine the hateful comments and fat shaming bullies when I punch a pad or do a squat because "just you wait until I'm slim bitches". Letting go of the validation and constant need to be thinner is trickier than I could have ever imagined. Although it doesn't control my life anymore, certain things will trigger it off and exercise is definitely one of them.

So how do I exercise when my goal is no longer weight loss? Well, I definitely have a word with myself before I begin. I remind myself of all the amazing benefits exercise can bring and how worthy I am of receiving them. I also share my anxieties and thoughts with my PT Hannah who can help me to process how I feel. Hannah helps me to set achievable goals that don't focus on weight loss such as; breathing better, squatting with improved form and strengthening my lower back. I find if I have something to work towards then it feeds my need of 'I wonder if I've lost a pound', after each session. I used to weigh myself weekly which was tied into how often and how hard I worked out. I don't do that anymore but I like to keep an eye on my progress so that I can decrease any chancers of weight loss triggers. It feels amazing when you get through a work out and notice some improvements. Although I don't want to be slim anymore, I definitely want to be fit and healthy and I truly believe, disregarding the link between weight loss and exercise is helping my physical health and mental health massively.


As you guys are probably aware, I have now partnered with Nike Women to bring you lots of content around fitness, exercise and movement. I'm hoping to keep the conversation going from the good and the bad, to the downright ugly. For some of us, exercise is complex and I'm happy to be frank and honest with my relationship with it. If there's any particular content you would like to see, just pop me a tweet and I'll be happy to try and include it in some way.

Currently, I am using movement as an act of self care. Whether that's light yoga, boxing with my trainer, stretching or just going for a walk. Being active is a lifestyle and exercise doesn't always have to be tough and rigorous. For me, its a chance to connect with my body, release pent up tension and just show myself that I love who I am - that I am worthy of exercise and using the incredibly body that I am so blessed with. There are so many benefits of exercise that is rarely spoken about, due to the diet culture ridden world we live in. Exercise is a great way to de-stress, it can increase energy levels, it can help with skin health, it can increase brain memory and most importantly - it can just make you feel happier (endorphins are a thing lol).

No matter if I'm walking to the shops for mini eggs lol, or going to a two hour dance and twerk class, I am obviously doing it all in style. This Nike tracksuit is a particular favourite, because its so comfy and it also looks amazing. I love the grey/blue shade, and I think it looks sick with these minty green trainers which FYI are ridiculously comfy. (Obviously this is a lifestyle outfit, you can't really wear this to train in - but keep your eyes peeled for an outfit that you can, which will be coming soon). Anyway, these lifestyle trainers are more comfortable than my air forces which is a big deal because I wear my forces pretty much everyday - as you can probably tell if you're an avid reader or you follow me on the gram.

What are your thoughts on exercise and do you have a complex relationship with it like myself?

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  1. 19th March 2018 / 2:47 pm

    Excellent! This information is needed. When we change the energy and imagery of exercise more people, including myself get more active.

  2. 19th March 2018 / 2:47 pm

    Excellent! This information is needed. When we change the energy and imagery of exercise more people, including myself get more active.

  3. 19th March 2018 / 2:50 pm

    Excellent and inspiring. It is true, when we change the energy and imagery around exercise more people, including myself get active. Exercise as self care is the healthiest way to see fitness, especially if you are plus size and being told that you are trash cause you aren’t a size 4.

  4. silentFollower
    19th March 2018 / 4:16 pm

    It’s funny but also kind of sad (not even a bit funny tbh) that I’ve never realised that when I finally force myself to go to the gym I’m doing it so one day I can have that “perfect” body. I am so so grateful that I came across this article of yours, up until now I thought it was normal to go to the gym with that “goal” in mind, I mean, it’s good to have a goal but a healthy one, a goal that doesn’t make you hate the way you are now. I’ve been silently following you for some time now and I NEVER really comment but I just felt so inspired that I had to THANK YOU!
    Lots of love

  5. 19th March 2018 / 8:21 pm

    I can totally relate Grace. Much like you, I had a really unhealthy mindset when it came to exercise and weight loss. I got obsessive with working out, lost a load of weight and then put it all back on again because I couldn’t keep it up and I felt HELLA guilty and ashamed about it too. Now, I’m trying to change my relationship with exercise and do it as part of self care. Can’t wait to see more content on this!

  6. Alex MacKenzie
    22nd March 2018 / 4:11 am

    The problem is that I have been focusing on the negative part of marriage, not speaking to anyone about my failed marriage and pretending everything is okay by putting up fake smiles. My husband transformed into a beast, cheater and abuser. It was unbearable to see a man who once vowed to shield us as family transfer aggression to me and the kids, pushing us hard to the wall.
    But there is time, reason and season for everything either good or bad. I ran to Dr. Wakina for salvation which I eventually achieved through his extra ordinary spell. Our differences were settled and every heart wounds healed within 2weeks. I am grateful my husband transformed again to an angel which he has always been. Thanks to our redeemer (dr. wakinalovetemple @ gmail. com) Dr. Wakina Love Temple.

  7. Jacki
    22nd March 2018 / 10:06 am

    OMG Grace I completely-100% agree with you!! What an absolutely brilliant piece, so many light bulbs popping on over my head reading this!!!

    Thank you again for your insight and honesty girl!

  8. Janetta
    23rd March 2018 / 8:29 pm

    I freaking love you Grace V. THIS –> “…exercise doesn’t always have to be tough and rigorous”. Just a few years ago I was a gym mouse. Working out 5 days a week and tracking every single thing I ate. I was dealing with a breakup at the time and was putting my energy there instead of crying all the time and sitting in my house away from moving things and people. It worked but after I started feeling better about my life, I kicked it to the curb. FFWD to now and I haven’t stepped foot in a gym in probably 3 yrs. Realizing it’s really all about “getting moving” and looking after your mind – I’ve taken up Bikram yoga. It’s gentler on me and feels more like a self care thing instead of a “get your ass in the gym and do not leave until you’ve burned X amount of calories”. While you do burn a few cals and you sweat like a beast in there – it’s more about controlling your mind and placing your focus on one thing at a time. There are no phones allowed and the only active voice is the instructors for a full 90 minutes. It’s really unbelievable. Anyway, can’t wait to see more from you on this topic! And that outfit is cute af! =)

  9. Emma
    25th March 2018 / 9:02 am

    These kinds of thoughts are really holding me back from exercising consistently, but I keep trying. This is such a fantastic post, and you look absolutely phenomenal in the photoshoot!

  10. Patrice Boothe
    26th March 2018 / 1:52 am

    Love this post, I love the fact you have progressed and not focusing on losing weight it’s just about feeling good. I’ve recently been excerising but from a good place I find when I got diagnosed with a brain tumour I was overly stressed and wanted to become healthier and going for walks has really helped me to relax.

    Such a good read can’t wait to see future posts xxx


  11. 3rd April 2018 / 2:49 pm

    For myself, I’m trying to exercise more so that I can be a bit fitter and healthier. I want to lose a little bit of weight (though I don’t need to tbh) but it’s not my main focus. I’d rather exercise so that I can feel good about myself, not so that I can achieve a particular weight loss goal.


  12. Tim
    18th June 2018 / 12:37 am

    Gracie, how do you think gyms that share your philosophy should advertise to reach people that are in your old mindset and show them what your the alternative is all about?

  13. 11th August 2018 / 6:11 am

    This article gives a clear idea to the new audience of blogging. I am so inspired by your post. Thanks for such a great information to us.

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