Its Mental Health Awareness Week and whenever these sorts of things come around, I feel an incredible amount of pressure to create content based on it. Unfortunately though, I have’t had much time or mental space to allow my thoughts to flow, so I apologise that this post is coming to you pretty late in the week.

Although I talk about mental health daily off my own back, for some reason when I have to (or feel like I have to) talk about it, words often fail me. I’ve basically been umm’ing and ahh’ing for days on what to post about today. Trauma? My eating disorder? Depression? There are so many avenues to mental health that I want to talk about, but my heart is saying ‘talk about your mental health improvements’, so that’s what I’m gonna do!

For the past month or so, I’ve felt like I’ve turned a huge, GIANT corner when it comes to my mental health. If you didn’t know (you probs do lol) I have previously suffered with anxiety, depression, self harm, and eating/body image issues. And in the summer of 2016 I was diagnosed with PSTD and an eating disorder. Its been a long ol’ slog to reach the point where I’m at right now, and although its been bloody hard, fucking hell has it been worth it.

I’ve been completely rock bottom, staring at an empty open river, thinking about jumping in. I’ve sat in bed crying for hours, with a blade in my hand willing and willing for my thoughts to stop. And I’ve purged my meal up straight before a dance exam, because I didn’t want the examiner to think I was fat. My mental health at one point completely dominated every aspect of my life. It drained me but drove me at the same time, and although I was so unwell, my demons became my best friends. It’s only in the last year since beginning therapy, that have I been able to really face my problems and shed the grey cloud thats been following me around for as long as I can remember. If you’re interested in my journey with therapy so far, then please read this post.

So the improvements you ask?

Well, I’d say that I’ve emerged myself in recovery and I’m managing my illness well (smashing it if I’m honest). I have my down days, don’t get me wrong, but 95.% of the time, I feel free and light and like I can achieve anything. I’ve worked out my triggers – stress being a HUGE one so I am prepared for a wobbly week if I have an intense workload, and if I can eliminate things that cause me stress I do. It feels so good that I love myself enough now to put myself first and make my health a priority. I don’t feel overwhelmed with my issues and trauma anymore and that for me, is a HUGE accomplishment. I’ve learnt to communicate how I feel to my family and friends, so they understand what I’m going through and in turn can support me when needed. I’m also not angry anymore. Well, maybe a lil bit lol, but its not consuming like it once was. My childhood trauma was SO hard for me to accept and because I couldn’t really place the blame anywhere, I ended up feeling angry and bitter and like the adults in my childhood owed me something. But along my journey I realised that holding on to things that make you feel bad, is damaging and more often than not, you must learn to let them go.

Another improvement is with my food. My eating disorder plays out in binge eating, but with an anorexic or restrictive mindset. I had developed an unwell relationship with food because I used it as a way to cope with suppressed thoughts, feelings and trauma. Now that I’ve processed all that trauma, my eating has become a lot more positive and I’m beginning to eat more intuitively. Don’t get me wrong, I still have unwell thoughts around calories and carbs etc, but I replace them with loving kind thoughts like ‘I’m eating this because I fancy it’ or ‘I’m eating this because I deserve lovely food’. I’m eating more varied and I’m eating the foods that I once wouldn’t allow myself to – cereal being one of them. Frosties are so amazing aren’t they lol? All in all, I’ve accepted my illness but I now have the tools to differentiate my thoughts between Grace (me) and bitch (my eating disorder).

The final improvement is realising that self care is absolutely essential in leading a happy life. I can’t even stress this enough but falling in love with self care has pretty much saved me. I obviously had therapy on top, but when I’m alone and in need of support, leaning on self care has got me through the toughest of days. When my depression was at its peak back in 2010, I couldn’t shower or brush my teeth. Sleeping and lying in one position for hours on end was literally all I had the energy and mental capacity to do. Nowadays, you’ll find me doing weekly face masks, booking in for massages, saying no to work when I just need to chill and preparing myself food everyday because I deserve that sort of treatment. Self care is a small thing to most people, but for people like myself, and other mental health sufferers, it can honestly be a lifeline.

And there we have it my beauties. The proof that it DOES get better. It just takes time, resilience and unwavering belief that you deserve to be happy. Truly, happy.

If you’re in a place right now where you can’t help but think ‘this is my life forever’, then I’d like to say to you this;

This isn’t your life forever – I promise you. This is just a difficult and shitty stage where you feel vulnerable and sad and maybe you feel nothing at all, but one day you will see that all of this is making you stronger. All of this is making you a kinder, more compassionate person and you will help others with your story. When you have the courage to walk down the road to recovery – you will realise just how incredible you are. Whether its therapy or medication or something else that will help you, you have fucking got this. It won’t be easy, in fact, it will probably be the hardest thing you ever do, but its worth it and when you find the thing that heals you, utilise it. You’re not your illness and your mental health issues do not define you, they’re just a part of you. Please don’t feel guilty or ashamed even though its easier said than done. And when its all too much for you, take care of yourself and speak to someone. You’re loved, you’re deserving and you are the epitome of bravery. It gets better.

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  1. Emma
    12th May 2017 / 9:49 pm

    I’m crying at that last paragraph, exactly what I needed to read today! I find it so hard to prioritise self care and I’m at the start of therapy to work things out. Wonderful to read a view from the other side!
    Love love loving your blog, keep going Gracie you are fantastic 💕

  2. 13th May 2017 / 3:04 am

    Fantastic post! It is so important to talk about mental health and I’m so happy you’ve made some great improvements. I feel like I’ve turned a corner too in terms of my own mental health, which I hope I can find the words to post something on my own blog. It does take time to get better and it’s important people realise that self-care can be staying in bed if you really need to, or doing one little thing that makes you happy every day. Thanks for sharing!

    cait / cait rammy

  3. An Emma
    16th May 2017 / 4:33 am

    I have been struggling for a long time not only with mental illness but also with the fact that I’m not making progress in therapy/recovery as quickly as I thought I would. I’m incredibly grateful that I found your blog a few weeks ago (by way of thisismegankerr.com) because I needed to hear this today more than anything. Thanks to you, and I’m glad that you are making such progress. It’s wonderful for you and it gives me hope. 🙂

  4. Rosie Olivia
    23rd May 2017 / 9:50 pm

    There’s such a stigma about mental health because people can’t
    identify with it. It’s not tangible. You break a wrist and everyone rushes over
    to sign your cast but you suffer from something in the mind and people rush
    away from you. We accept emotions like grief because we can identify with them
    but those emotions that we cannot identify with we turn away from and scowl
    upon because of pure ignorance.

    This is why I have decided I want to write a book about my
    anxiety journey and the stigma of mental health in general. If anyone has any
    opinions or thoughts that they would like to share with me or ideas of things
    they think need to be included in the book please do not hesitate to email me
    at rosie.olivia28@gmail.com 🙂 x

  5. 31st May 2017 / 10:45 am

    Absolutely love this! It does get better, it just takes time. Even though my mutual breakup thingy hurts, I’m slowly taking it one day at a time.

  6. 4th July 2017 / 11:04 am

    Hey! I found your blog because I am in fact just about to start recovery (awaiting referral to an eating disorder clinic) It’s so reassuring to hear other people’s experiences and I really hope you’re doing well.
    I’ve just started my own blog to fill the hours so if you could check that out and offer any advice or tips on blogging and of course recovery that would be much appreciated. If you like what you read then please do share my blog if you can, I’m really wanting to reach a wide range of young people like me who could benefit from me writing about my experiences going through this!
    I also think you’re stunning and you SLAY your make-up and outfits.


    Many thanks, Amy x

  7. Ali
    24th July 2017 / 4:54 pm

    I don’t feel like I am strong enough to seek proper help yet but your blog posts, insta posts and tweets of general positivity are helping me in ways I could never explain.
    Your courage and strength is inspriring and for that, I thank you.
    Keep being you, x

  8. 27th July 2017 / 1:51 pm

    Loved this post. I feel like I relate to you so much. I’m glad to hear you’re feeling better. “This isn’t your life forever – I promise you.” – I tell myself this every time I am feeling sad, or hopeless or anxious about my body. Truly a great tool for eating disorder recovery. Thanks so much for this post! x

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