There has been numerous debates on twitter, constant arguments on Instagram and general discussions between myself & others on whether we should ‘keep the plus’ or ‘drop the plus’. Ashley Graham (probs the most successful curve model in the world right now) is for dropping the plus, whilst nearly every person I know who is plus size, is all for keeping it.

Maybe thats the issue…

Curve models don’t necessarily know all the struggles that the fat general public actually have to face. Lets be honest here. A model is an aspiration right? They have to and usually do, have an acceptable amount of ‘fat’ in all the right places. They have thick thighs, a jiggly bum, but slim arms and a toned stomach, so the images we see of them, aren’t what many of us fat girls look like.

Don’t get me wrong. I love seeing bigger models on the runway and plastered all over billboards, but its just not enough.

I want to see more body types like me. I want to see rolls, I want to see cellulite & I want to see fat arms etc etc etc.

So what does the term ‘plus size’ mean to me?

A few years ago if you called me plus size, I would wince with shame and embarrassment. A few years ago, if you asked me to keep or drop the plus, I would say drop. You see, the connotations associated with the term ‘plus size’ or ‘fat’ were negative, hurtful and down right cruel. Growing up it just wasn’t okay to be fat. If you were fat (even just a little bit) then you were lazy, disgusting & greedy. I don’t remember a time where I wasn’t trying to lose weight. I never felt good enough so in turn, I ended up with serious eating problems & other mental health issues such as depression and self harm.

The acceptance of fat bodies or just bodies that didn’t look like the models on the cover of magazines, would have probably saved me and others who were young & impressionable


Fast forward to 2014 where I came across a community of plus size bloggers. Bloggers who were fat, fat like me & had bodies like me… but were happy??!! THEY WEREN’T TRYING TO LOSE WEIGHT OR TELL ME THEIR NEW DIET AND WEIGHTLOSS SECRET!!!?? (I genuinely couldn’t believe there were people out there like this, it blew my mind)

Stumbling across people like Callie, Danie, George, Gabi & more recently, my boo thang Olivia, changed my life & I owe those girls more than they could possibly imagine.

At a time where I needed it the most, I was able to see a light at the end of a very dark tunnel, that just felt like it was getting longer and longer.

It was exhilarating to be able to relate to other woman who were bigger than whats ‘acceptable’ (F U society and your ideals) but who were also fashionable as fuck. Women who had bodies similar to mine but looked amazing, were damn well stunning & also made me feel good about myself. Women who were happy with what they looked like and pulled people up on fat shaming. Women who weren’t trying to fit in, but instead were comfortable standing out. Women who didn’t constantly pose to look slimmer or hide their fat in photos. Women who wore bikinis and POSTED THOSE BIKINI PICS ON INSTAGRAM FOR THE WORLD TO SEE? Women who were C O N F I D E N T.

To me, plus size is a descriptor, just like tall & petite, its what my body is and there is nothing wrong with that. The only reason its seen as ‘damaging’ or ‘wrong’ is because society believes being plus size is damaging and wrong.

‘Ew, plus size people are basically saying that being fat is okay and they’re glorifying obesity’

In actual fact the term ‘plus size’ is a way to shop for clothes that will fit my big thighs. Its a way for me to search for other people that I can probably relate to more than the same people that appear on my Bloglovin’ explore feed (yup I’m throwing shade). Its a term that enables me to feel part of a group that doesn’t tell me to lose weight but in fact celebrates my size. Its a place for me to feel included.

Being plus size or the phrase plus size, in the grand scheme of things has bought me nothing but positivity. I now have like minded friends who build me up, instead of bring me down (aint nothing more fucked up than having size 8 friends moan about how fat and ugly they are, when I’m sat there like OK COOL DO YOU KNOW HOW DISRESPECTFUL THAT IS YOU SWINE). I buy size 18 or 20 trousers without feeling ashamed or guilty because I now know that being the size I am (at any size) is perfectly okay.

Oh & for the record.. Im ‘keep the plus’. I do understand that inclusivity is also a factor in all of this but in my opinion, like I said before, the term plus size is just like tall or petite. Its a descriptor that plus size people are in fact proud of. Nobody likes being labeled, but if need be, we’re cool with being plus.

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  1. 15th August 2016 / 12:15 pm

    I love this post and although I'm not considered 'Plus Size' I love seeing the same clothing on different sizes! I love that girls are happy in their body and just because someone has the label 'plus size' it doesn't define who you are as a person it just helps a girl out when it comes to clothing sizes or what you can expect to see on someone's blog etc! I follow girls of all sizes and a lot of the time I prefer reading blogs of plus size bloggers despite not being able to relate in size! Size is just a number though! It's 2016 and if people think negatively about the term 'Plus Size' then there's seriously something wrong with them people!
    Also following girls who are 'Plus Size' and describe themselves in this way enabled me to realise gaining weight is ok, after I really struggled with being ok with gaining weight, 'Plus Size' girls made me feel better about this! I think the 'Plus Size' term should stay!xx

  2. 15th August 2016 / 3:18 pm

    God I loved this post so so much! I don't think I'd define myself to be plus sized although I'm certainly not petite at all!! This post has made me so much more confident to be able to try out different styles and clothes!!!

  3. 15th August 2016 / 3:41 pm

    some of the babes you mentioned are actually my favourite bloggers! they have so much style and are SO confident. I love it!
    Pam xo/ Pam Scalfi♥

  4. 16th August 2016 / 1:18 pm

    Gracie you're so inspirational and such a lush role model to young girls who should be able to be happy whatever skin they're in. I'm an awkward size I'm a size 12/14 on bottom and 10/12 on top so I'm probably I between being curvy and plus size. My weight has yo yo'd constantly over the past 8 years. I've been a lot heavier than I currently am but you shouldn't have to feel pressure from anyone else to lose or gain weight. You look smoking hot, you're so beautiful and you show girls who are your size that they too can be comfortable in their skin. Size shouldn't matter at the end of the day as long as we're all healthy and happy, that's what matters ! Lots of love xxx

    Imogen // http://www.miniaturemilk.co.uk

  5. 17th August 2016 / 8:41 pm

    This blog post brought me to tears!!! After I discovered the plus size world it changed my life too( You, Loey Lane, Nadia Aboulhosn, Tess Holiday, etc) You ladies saved me!! I'm still on my journey of self love but thanks to y'all I'm on it!! I truly thank you❤ -Deja J.👑 XOXO

  6. 20th August 2016 / 9:49 pm

    I. Love. Everything. ABOUT THIS! There's so much happiness in my body right now my feeling can't even get out around it to be expressed lol. Gabifresh was one of the first plus size bloggers I found too! I discovered everyone on instagram. I found Essie Golden somewhere (I can't even remember) and I went on her Instagram and I was blown away by her confidence and general level of unbothered. She'd posted an article she was featured in about "plus size instagrams you should be following right now" and a whole magical world just opened up to me. It was fantastic! The plus size community had done SO MUCH for my life! If you're looking to expand your newsfeed, as I always am, I absolutely ADORE Shaina from Outofthecorner (her Insta) and Sasha from FlawsofCouture (her Insta). Sasha and her friend Garcia (Garcia Glam on Insta) are fashion designers as well and I think you would like their stuff. You were wearing a Bad Gyal shirt in one of your recent videos and I thought it was an FOC shirt at first. Here's the website: http://focapparel.storenvy.com/

    Anywhoo Shaina and Sasha & Garcia, their Instagrams are great, but them Snapchats????? be liiiiiittt!!! hahahaha. Xoxoxox babes!

  7. 23rd August 2016 / 11:51 am

    I think 'descriptor' is exactly the right way to view it. Frankly it makes shopping easier which is no bad thing. I think there are more important things to be fixed than what we call ourselves. Things like seeing bigger clothes stocked in more stores to reflect the population, bringing plus size sections out of the corner so women don't feel embarrassed to be seen there, and ultimately showing that size is irrelevant becasue health is where the emphasis should be.

    I love this post! For years I've felt like plus is bad, but I'm finally learning to love myself and not be brought down by a label. Reading posts like this help the process, so thank you.


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