*Sigh*. I didn’t want to write this and I didn’t want to make a big deal about it, but a part of me needs to just share my thoughts about the lack of support within the blogging ‘community’..
I consciously remind myself to show support to people, a text, a tweet, whatever – it really doesn’t take that long & its just nice y’know? The blogging world is absolutely booming at the moment and so many bloggers are doing amazing things, its hard to keep track BUT if you follow someone & they announce something awesome, I think its important to congratulate them. Us bloggers are incredibly powerful women, some of us have built something from nothing and are living lives that others can only dream of. We are business women in our own right, do you know how amazing that is? I can’t speak for everyone but every single day I’m grinding. Full time bloggers are self employed and despite what you think goes on or what you see, work doesn’t just come to us handed on a plate. I work my bloody ass off so that my bills are paid (and I can also shop lol).
We are all in this together, so why the f**k is their such a great lack of support shown to one another?
A few nights ago my first ever TV presenting gig aired on BBCiplayer, if you haven’t seen it you can watch it here. I have never been so excited and proud of myself & yet after all the adrenalin and hype had died down I was overcome with sadness and disappointment. My followers, family, friends and subscribers were showing me so much love and support, but my fellow bloggers (some I actually considered to be mates) said absolutely nothing. At first I brushed my feelings off, telling myself I was just being stupid and to man up, but I genuinely felt sad. I try so hard to spread positive vibes, I congratulate and show excitement when other blogger babes reach a milestone or achieve something, yet when it happened to me, I felt like nobody gave a damn.
I hope what I’m saying isn’t coming across as bratty or childish, I just really wanted to be honest and speak up. I’ve been on the blogging/vlogging scene since 2011 and my oh my how things have changed. Wheres the sisterhood gone? Wheres the community vibe gone? Its like nobody can be happy for other people anymore and its all just a competition.. Of course some bloggers reached out to say they were proud and that I did really well and I appreciate that SO much, but I guess it was really obvious to me that a lot didn’t. Its not like they didn’t know lol, it was plastered all over my twitter account, an account that so many of them follow?
I don’t exactly know where I’m going with this. I guess I just wish things were how they used to be. Its all about who’s got the most followers, who’s got the most views, who’s making the most money, who’s working with what brand & I feel like the real reason so many of us started has disappeared. We were once all so united and now being a blogger is actually pretty lonely..
We are all normal people who just so happen to share our lives on the internet, but I get the sense that some of us think we are better than the next person?
Am I overreacting? Am I being too sensitive? Maybe so. But I’m not ashamed to say how I feel & I’m not ashamed to be honest about how s**t the blogging ‘community’ has become. This whole ‘you can’t sit with us’ vibe needs to exit and it needs to exit real quick. There is no need to be entitled, envious, bitchy or mean..
Its a wonderful feeling congratulating someone, and its also a wonderful feeling when someone is congratulating you. I just wish we all supported each other more & stuck together. Don’t get me wrong, I love what I do and I have made some amazing friendships through blogging, but as a whole, there is a lack of support shown to one another and it absolutely sucks!