I’ve been through a lot. People have hurt me.. Family members, friends, whoever & I tend to hold grudges. If someone effs me over once, I make sure they don’t eff me over again. I think its my defence mechanism. I’ve put up with so much bullshit throughout my life that I think I now have a low tolerance for it. I don’t see the point of giving people second chances & I cut people off very easily. I’ve been this way since coming out of treatment and I think its extremely healthy to love yourself enough to not allow people to hurt you, however.. Pushing everyone away leads to loneliness and that’s one lesson I continue to learn. I hate hate hate forgiving people – it sort of makes me feel weak? As if I’ve been defeated and as if that person has the upper hand. I know its stupid. I must have too much pride or something. I refuse to talk to certain family members due to things that happened ten years ago & I refuse to talk to people who used to pick on me at school.. Even though I left school in 2006. You get the picture right?

I’ve seen this quote before but over the past few weeks it keeps popping up everywhere. Twitter, Instagram, Facebook – you name it. I think its a sign to let things go. I hold on to a lot & it probably does me more harm than good. I think I have a giant grey cloud following me around everywhere.. but its now time for some sunshine.

Take this week to forgive people who have hurt you – you don’t need the baggage girl.

Grace x


  1. 10th August 2014 / 6:32 pm

    I hold grudges A LOT but I won't make a thing of it, i'll just ignore them and not speak to them again! Maybe I should learn from this post though. Love you Gracie. xx

  2. 10th August 2014 / 8:25 pm

    A girl used to really bully me at school …we never had contact again until a couple of years ago on Facebook where she added me… I accepted and we basically fell out all over again so I defriended her… Anyway a couple of months ago I decided to live and let live and re-added her as I realised that we had quite a lot in common. We get along fine now… We just agree to disagree over certain things. I feel really empowered though that I took that step as i am normally a lot like you xx

  3. 10th August 2014 / 9:15 pm

    Grace i love this post. It kind of made me emotional reading it. I also tend to push people away and it is really hard because your right you do end up lonely. Due to pushing people away so much i have lost alot of my confidence and i tend to think everyone that comes into my life is going to leave so i push them away before they hurt me. Your videos on youtube when you talk about your strength and your confidence classes really help me. they make me understand im not alone. Long story short i had a very tough time last year and i lost who i was as a person and basically had to rebuild my life. You have helped with that more than you know.

    aimee xo

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